Thursday, January 12, 2012

My Rush Experience at an Abrupt Halt.

I suppose every school does Rush or Formal Recruitment differently, but at Butler, we were led my a recruitment counselor who had de-activated from her sorority for all of first semester, who was with us at all times.

She walked us to the houses and was there when we left. Last night, we met with her after all the houses to "pref" them, or say in which order we liked the houses. Ashley & I quickly preffed ours & left. 

We spent the night going to CVS for chocolate & spent the night laughing. I wasn't nervous one bit. All of my conversations had gone really well & I was pretty sure I'd get asked back to six houses today, the maximum allowed, even though our recruitment counselor said that rarely happened.

So fast forward to today.

We were all supposed to be in the room with our recruitment group to receive the list of houses that wanted to see us again at 10 a.m. so we could be ready to go to our first event at 11. 

Our recruitment counselor called each person out in the hall to tell them which houses they got asked back to.

She kept not calling my name.

Finally, she called my name last & said we could just go over the paper in the room.

Here's what I saw:

11: no event scheduled
12: no event scheduled
2: no event scheduled
3: no event scheduled
4: (house I wasn't interested in)
5: (house I wasn't interested in)

I was absolutely shocked. Our recruitment counselor said she saw it last night & could not believe it either, that's why she saved me for last - she knew I'd be upset. 

I thought there honestly had to have been a mistake in the computers. 

When I was at one of the houses yesterday, one of the girls said her friend in the house who I know said to look for me & they thought I had already come through. That seemed weird. She said there were two Ali Hendricks' that were going through recruitment. I knew if there were two people with my same name I would know it.

So when I got that list, I was sure there had probably been some kind of mistake.

But, after the head of greek life checking again, she said there wasn't a mistake.

Who knows. 

After a long, long, looonnngggg cry, I'm okay. Of course, it bothers me that no one liked me enough to ask me back a second time at the houses I liked. I mean, if I had said I like to do meth on the weekends or hooked up with a different person every night I could understand but I definitely didn't do that and I had good conversation with all the girls I met. 

I'm not really sure what happened, but I'm going to try not to dwell on it because I can't change it.

I wasn't in a sorority up until now & I was fine. I will be fine not being in one now. 

Kind Words & thoughts seriously appreciated ... like, more than you know.



Stacy @ Cardigans and Crayons said...

Their loss!

And you'll be fine! The same friends you have now will still be your friends. Nothing is different, except the money you'll save from not being in one!!

harry said...

fuck them alli. greek life is for shmucks anyway!! You don't need to follow the rest of the crowd. head up mate xx

July said...

Wow I'm so sorry to hear that. It's honestly their loss!

Speaking from my own experience, greek life is not what it's wrapped up to be. I joined a Sorority, went through it all, and 7 years later I am friends with ONE girl from it.

I made better friends outside of the Greek life..because we chose to be friends, and weren't actually forced to like each other.

I know it's tough right now, but I promise you will realize that it wasn't meant to be.

Hang in there Hun :)

Beth Noblitt said...

I'm really sorry Ali.

Mrs. Mama said...

aw, ali! no worries! i had joined a sorority my freshmen year... and dropped out my sophomore year... best decision i ever made! it's totally NOT what its cracked out to be. seriously.

Unknown said...

Oh gosh... I can't tell you enough how FINE you will be. I joined a sorority(got the one i wanted and all) and was working my butt off to be able to pay the dues and go to the events and all that mess and at one meeting they "surprised" me and told me "Congratulations, you HAVE to move into the sorority house because you don't have as many points as everyone else since you haven't been able to make it to all of the events."(because i was working). When I told them I had already put a down payment on an apartment with my best friend(to be closer so I could make it to more events) they straight up said I needed to ditch my friend, eat the cost of the down payment and move in with my "sisters". Needless to say that didn't go over well with me. I ditched the sorority instead and told them my friend was more of a sister than they would ever be.

LOVELY, huh? Letting go of those broads was the best idea i ever had!

The Gambrel Family said...


I'm sorry that those girls weren't smart enough to realize how awesome you are! It is their loss. I will be thinking about you.

Take care,

Hayleigh said...

Ali, you are smart, beautiful and we love you dearly. Keep your chin up. Not joining a sorority just means you'll have more time to devote to your professional development, the Collegian, your hobbies and true friends. I'm here if you need to talk! -Hayleigh

Aly @ Analyze This said...

We have already talked about this ... sorry girlfriend! It really is their loss! You are awesome!!!

Michelle said...

Ali: I was in a sorority, and while I did have some fun and make some friends, on the whole I would rate the experience expensive, superficial and disappointing. If you enjoy being the master of your own time, and setting your own priorities, that life is not for you.
I don't think the way that paper turned out was a mistake either: I think it was a blessing from the hand of the Father. You'll do something far more original, creative and worthwhile all on your own.

Jill said...


Disappointment like that is pretty hard to swallow no matter what. But I will tell you that as a girl who transferred three times during my 4 collegiate years and was a part of a sorority at two of them, it's not going to be the worst thing in the world. Sure, some greek experiences are wonderful. But the greek system isn't what it used to be. Sometimes it can be superficial and competitive. From what I can tell, you've got a great group of friends that you enjoy being around. Which won't change. Bottom line: you're going to be just fine. Butler is a great school. You're a fabulous girl. And you're going to have great friends that stick with you post-graduation, no greek affiliations required. :)

Keep your head up, girl!

Pamela said...

this breaks my heart sweet girl!! you will be MORE than fine. I know its hard to see that now but everything happens for a reason!! that is the nasty part of the greek system :( do not get too down on yourself there are PLENTY of other ways to make friends at school and I wish you the best love!

Caitlin Cavallaro said...

I agree with Andrea. If they didn't see how sweet you are, then it's their loss, not yours! Keep your head up!!