Friday, November 11, 2011

Down With the Sickness

So many girls I know are "down with the sickness" ... the sickness that is being a doormat for everyone.

I was sitting at a high school football game the other night listening to a mom talk about how her high school daughter's boyfriend talked to her like crap and that girl? Well she just did whatever she could do to try to make it better, to try to make him not mad at her even if it wasn't her who did anything wrong.

That gave me the inspiration for this post.

Hear me out when I say this, if you read no further, being nice and being a doormat with no backbone are two different things. The first is a good quality to possess, the second is not. 

Ladies, people have issues that we cannot fix, and at some point? we need to let go of those things and realize that it isn't us, it's them.

Sure, if you have messed up, by all means apologize & do whatever you can to make it better.

But know the difference.

You are way too precious to get talked down to, to be looked over, to be treated like anything less than the gem that you are.

& people will forever treat you the way you let them treat you. They will determine your worth based on how whatyou think you're worth. It shows.

So for pete's sake girls, stand up for yourselves, be your own best advocate. Because if you aren't, who will? And I'm tired of seeing awesome girls getting treated poorly simply because they let it happen.

Oh & p.s. ... It took me a long time to get here. I used to be that girl too. So if you are, don't take offense to this ... just please, stand up for yourself.



Jill said...

AMEN. :) It's such a process but it's worth it.

Caitlin said...

Whew. I've been there. I was the girlfriend that was way.too.nice. for too long and wanna know where that got me? The ex-girlfriend. Being the doormat to a man will never work. It's not a good place to be. A friend recommended that I read Why Men Love Bitches and it was SO eye opening for me!

Eugenia said...

I agree!! I was that girl once too.. actually still working on not being a doormat!

Anonymous said...

I absolutely love this post girl. While I may not have been that girl before, I witness it firsthand with my two best friends. One of whom is currently going through the big D word. It's sad and heart breaking to watch. Because they are both worth so much more than what they settle for.

Unknown said...

tell'em giiiiiiirl! :)

Sarah B. said...

You tell 'em, girl! I couldn't have said it better myself. :)